Don’t tell anyone you are pregnant until the first trimester has passed..
“Your skin is going to break out … You can’t eat sushi … Don’t eat oranges or drink orange juice … Don’t eat ice … Don’t sleep too much … Don’t wear high heels …You need to take it easy and stay home until the baby is born … Don’t wear this, wear that instead … You need to gain at least 12kgs … If your belly itches, don’t scratch … Expect the ugly nose …”
So much advice …
Don’t get me wrong. I am sure that everyone who ever gave me a piece of advice about my pregnancy meant well. I do appreciate the advice but it can get overwhelming.
As a first time mom, there are a lot of things I do not know about pregnancy and being a mother. I rely on other people’s experience’s to gain knowledge about this journey. I still cannot tell you if that has been a great decision or not.
There are people who have definitely given me some valuable advice but I’ve also noticed just how negative some of the advice can be. This is scary because I do not know the truth from an old wives tale and I cannot always call my doctor to verify everything. I would need to call him so often that he’ll start blocking my calls. Google has helped a little but can sometimes give you contradicting answers.
So what‘s a new mom to do?
I don’t want to harm my baby but I also don’t want to walk on eggshells for 9 months. Does motherly instinct kick in while you pregnant?
As soon as people found out I was pregnant, almost everyone had advice for me and as much as I appreciated the advice, it quickly got too confusing and I had to block out a lot and start doing what felt right.
Again, I am not saying that I never took any of the advice I was given or that people shouldn’t give advice to pregnant women. I do think that people need to be a bit more sensitive and let the pregnancy unfold and allow the pregnant Mom to experience it in her own way. Every pregnancy is unique.
Most people mean well when they give you advice but some end up scaring the life out of you. Don’t get me started on those who are just out to tell you how miserable your life is going to be now that you are pregnant.
I made a decision long before I fell pregnant that I would have the most incredible pregnancy. I made a choice to be happy, healthy and fabulous.
I have encountered a few complications during my pregnancy but I always knew deep down in my heart that they were little challenges that didn’t have to define the mood of pregnancy.
My pregnancy is about the miracle of life. Can you imagine what it would have been like for me if I started off expecting to have the worst experience? I am not disregarding the hardships that some women go through when they are pregnant or the very real challenges faced by some women during pregnancy.
I believe that pregnancy, for the most part, is an incredible experience. Enjoy every moment of this amazing journey. Do what feels right and focus on the positive.
If you want to share your pregnancy experience or give advice, focus on the positive and add to the joy of the new Mom.