You don’t have to be Superwoman

Before I go on and on about my life, I would like to send a big shoutout to all the single mothers out there. You are real superheroes who don’t always get enough credit for all you do, especially since you do it alone.

I can guarantee you that my pregnancy journey would have been long and hard without the support of my amazing boyfriend, family and friends. No women should have to go through pregnancy alone.

I am an independent woman and I never realized the importance of a strong support system until I fell pregnant. I took it for granted but now I know that as a pregnant woman there are things that you shouldn’t have to worry about. Someone else can take care of them. We need all the help we can get and we deserve being spoiled.

Having loving and supportive people around you makes the pregnancy experience exciting and special. Just knowing that someone is as excited as you are about the pregnancy elevates the experience to new levels. You also need people who will be understanding and comforting when you experience down moments during the pregnancy.

I personally needed a lot of support. Juggling a career with all the changes and challenges that pregnancy throws at you, has not been an easy task. I experienced a few medical complications that has left me in tears but knowing that I wasn’t alone made the burden easier to carry. My boyfriend, family and friends are always by my side. They all want the best for me and the baby and that is a blessing from God.

The most surprising and amazing experience has been the love and words of encouragement I have been receiving from people in general. I cannot tell you how much those messages and gifts meant to me and my boyfriend. We are the luckiest parents and we are blessed with a baby that attracts so much love, support and blessings.

My wish for any pregnant woman is to never feel alone but to have the greatest support and love.

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    zuzile June 20, 2015 @ 7:56 am

    Definitely a pregnancy thing Bongeka. I cried like a baby all the time for no reason mostly but hey those moments just become too funny. I treasured my pregnancy and always wish that every pregnant woman can just take that time not to worry about anything but just enjoy the life growing inside of them, it is such a blessing and yes you do miss the belly. Men always get negative comments but shame some truly are God sent especially when they grin and bear all the drama that comes from a pregnant woman…for those guys I say Big ups and God bless always!


    Nobuhle June 23, 2015 @ 2:33 am

    Firstly I would like to say that I love your blog, many women (including myself) can really relate to this. I pray that you receive everything that God has planned out for you and your family and enjoy every single second that precious gift is inside because you will miss it, I know I do.

    Support is truly essential during a pregnancy as it can help you block out so much negativity but unfortunately I never had this luxury during my pregnancy. I got pregnant during my first year at varsity with my high school sweetheart’s baby but things changed for the worst once we started arguing about keeping the baby or not to the point where he decided to leave me because I wasn’t going to do what he wanted. With no one else to turn to I had to comfort myself and conquer all the battles that came my way everyday (emotionally, physically and spiritually) and become my very own superhero because I had no choice. But with every day and night that I cried I prayed to God that no matter how severe my depression could be can He please make my baby be the 3Hs I wanted him to be (Happy, Handsome and Healthy). Despite what I was going through I always prayed for the same thing and on the 5th of March 2014 I received everything that I prayed for and today I thank God for pulling me through my darkest days because now I get to see my beautiful prince and ever since he was born I get strangers comment about how happy and handsome he is and I truly believe that being a mother was the best thing that could happen to me

    Sorry for the long and depressing story but what I could say is that no matter what you may be going through as pregnant woman remember that God has put you in a position where He knows that you can conquer and the best thing you can do for your baby is to pray for him/her.


    Balungile August 14, 2015 @ 3:26 pm

    Wow, I am so addicted to this blog. I am one of the people who can attest that support goes a long way. I have a lot of that from my family and friends. My boyfriend is supportive too but there are times when. “you could have been more supportive there.” Pregnancy is a pleasent experience but it has its challenges like emotional, medical etc and that is when you need a close companion to hold your hand and say, “you are not alone”.

    Thank you Zee for such a wonderful blog and all that you share in it. May the Almighty increase wherever you take from. Thank you for letting your light shine on us when we need it the most.

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