I am a DJ

I am a DJ, that’s my lane and my true love …

I have been a DJ for eleven years. Having a career in music has afforded me so many special moments, unforgettable experiences and has given me so many opportunities. My involvement in a male dominated industry has made me stronger than I thought I would ever be. I have also become more caring and have developed an increased passion for the growth and success of women.

I am a DJ … I am repeating this because I need you to understand that, that is who I am and this is what I do.

I love being at the club. I love music. I love hearing people sing along to the music I play. I love zoning out during my sets and I love seeing people lose themselves on the dance floor. I love my job.

Being a DJ has opened many doors for me. I can proudly say that I am an entrepreneur. I am a businesswoman, hard working and dedicated. I co-own Fuse Academy, a DJ school for girls, founded in 2009. I am also the proud owner of ERA By DJ Zinhle, a costume jewelry accessory range.

Business excites me. I am result driven because success is important to me. I believe in consistency and progress inspires me to do more. Every step, no matter how small is an achievement. It is important to keep moving. I can’t stop, I always have new ideas and I get excited about implementing them. I love what I do and I cannot imagine doing anything else.

Being self-employed means that one works ten times harder that an employed person, at least I think so. Everything is riding on you, there is no guaranteed salary as would be the case when you are employed by a big company. I had to find my own work rhythm because there are no set working hours.  Every minute is an opportunity to grow your business.

It made perfect sense that, when we started planning my pregnancy, it had to happen around my work schedule.

It might sound weird but I sat my amazing man down and explained to him when the best time to conceive would be. He laughed but agreed. I had it all planned. I even had a tight training program that would ensure that I kept my normal weight thus hiding the pregnancy until a specific time. The plan was clear, work wouldn’t be disrupted by the pregnancy. When I say work, I am talking about going to the office everyday from 9 till 5, attending meetings and client events, going to gigs on weekends and conducting Fuse Academy workshops.

Gigging involved a lot of travelling and sleepless nights. I have been doing it for years, what’s the big deal?

Well, the big deal was that now my body was going through a totally foreign experience, pregnancy. I promised myself that I would push through, no matter how hard it seemed and I did. For the first five months of my pregnancy, my schedule continued as usual.  I could feel that things were different and it but I didn’t want to stop. If I did, I would lose my mind.

Twenty weeks into my pregnancy, a  simple visit to the doctor’s rooms changed everything. He picked up a complication which required me to be admitted to the hospital immediately. I had an operation the next day and everything changed.

The doctor explained my condition to me and made it clear that if I wanted the baby to survive, I would need to slow down. I had no option but to completelely stop my exercise routine and any travelling plans and to take it easy … very easy.

Not my style at all. Phew! I had to cancel all the shows I had confirmed and decided that I would work from home instead of going to the office everyday. Major adjustment!

I love my unborn baby and there was no way I would ever put it in harms way. I did what any mom would do … I put my baby’s needs before mine …

It has not been easy at all, especially because my boyfriend is such a hard worker. At times, I watch him prepare to go to work and I envy him. I miss work so much but I truly believe that this experience is meant to teach me a valuable lesson.

Cutting down on work was never part of my plan but I think that this has been a great way for me to learn about juggling motherhood and a career. I realise that it will not be easy at all. I have a new found respect for all working moms. How do you do it? Is there a formula? Will I be able to balance the two?

I am good at what I do,  I know how to rock a crowd but will I be present enough to rock my baby to sleep and not miss the special moments?



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    Sindiswa June 11, 2015 @ 6:34 am

    Love reading your “moments”..God bless you and your family.

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    Nomcebo June 17, 2015 @ 12:28 pm

    Enjot reading moment, congratulations!

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    Ntsoaki June 18, 2015 @ 8:56 pm

    Love you Dj Zinhle you are so beautiful your blog is inspiring wish you and baby all the love and happiness in the world

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    ZanyDeep June 24, 2015 @ 11:19 am

    You are amazing and God will give you strength to pull through!

    I know how you feel. I quit my daily job after I conceived, it was confusing, scary coz I was going to a world that required me to spend most of my days away and I was labeled a bad mom coz I miss rocking my baby to bed coz I need to rock a crowd at times.

    Thanks for being an amazing role model. Keep moving forward and Stay Blessed!

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    Mosa June 30, 2015 @ 3:09 pm

    “I am good at what I do, I know how to rock a crowd but will I be present enough to rock my baby to sleep and not miss the special moments?”…………….. Good question,

    i’m a professional in a corporate world, run a business and have two boys (3 if you include their father) aged 1 and 3 and between all these, it’s proven to be very difficult to maintain any decent level of any aspect of my life.
    I have a live in helper, and thank God for that selfless lady, i can maintain some sanity, even if its just for a little while. However because i’m a hands on mother, i prepare my own kids food (none of my kids has ever eaten purity or other such foods) and hubby and i believe in engaging with our kids daily, playing with them and all ofthat, half the time i’m tired to do anything else, meaning my work and commitment to my business is not at the level it should be.But i made that choice, my kids kids and family first, the rest after, and i have no regrets. Next year however i plan to register for an MBA, just so i try to stay relevant and don’t lose myself in the poop too much.

    Friends? i don’t have many. Those that are still around are the real friends that respect my situation now and understand the insanity that is now my life, the insanity i wouldn’t trade for anything else in the world…I love those boys.

    so to answer your question…….. in motherhood, you win some you lose some.What you’re willing to lose and how much, is all up to you.One just has to choose the road less traveled, choose a road that best suits you and leaves you happy and content/fulfilled.

    Happy motherhood.

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