It is exactly 7am and I’m sitting in the car outside my front door. I just got back home from gym and this is my favourite time of the day. I walk into the house feeling energised and ready for the day, calling out my daughter’s name … Kairo, Kairo … I always hide just to see how she reacts to my voice. She starts looking around with excitement, trying to see where the voice is coming from, her eyes get bigger and her tiny body is moving excitedly trying to find her mother. When she sees me her whole face lights up. My day is made.
I am a mother, something that I know without a doubt because that’s just the way it is … I am a mother.
As I was driving home today I was listening to a talk by Oprah about how we label ourselves and how we repeat things to ourselves until we believe them. I believe that I’m a kind and respectful person. Things have happened in my life and in most of these events, I believe that I have always conducted myself with kindness and respect.
What else do I believe about myself? What else do I say to myself that I believe?
I believe that I’m a hard-working, loving and giving person but sometimes I also believe things that are less desirable about myself. Sometimes I don’t believe that I’m beautiful enough, I don’t believe that I am a good mother, sometimes I tell myself that I can’t do certain things and that maybe I’m not destined for great wealth.
If you are reading this you might be one of the people who have said something negative about themselves today, without even noticing it. You’ve probably said something like I’m just unlucky, poor, or my friends are jealous of me. There are so many things that we tell ourselves that we shouldn’t.
Trust is important and the more we trust someone the more we believe the things that they tell us. It goes without saying that we trust ourselves so that at any point when we say something to ourselves we will believe it without any doubt. That is very powerful, because if you start having different conversations with yourself from today onwards, you can change the way you feel and think about yourself. We are so accustomed to negativity and we say things without even realising that they are actually negative.
Today, I want to challenge you to be aware of the things that you say to yourself, about yourself. At any point where you say something negative about yourself, out of habit, replace it immediately with something positive. Do it so often that positivity becomes a habit. Speaking positively about yourself should be a habit, it should be something that you do on a daily basis without even thinking about it. Get into the habit of being positive.
Have conversations that are meaningful, with yourself and the people that you spend your time with. Think about the kind of conversations that you have with the people you spend most of your time with. You will not have a positive conversation with yourself if you spend most of your time with people who speak negatively of themselves or others in your presence.
The secret is realising how amazing you are and starting the process of making yourself aware of this fact. When you start having conversations with yourself in a positive manner and replace all the negative thoughts and the negative things that you’ve been telling yourself, you start realising that even the people around you who have negative things to say about you, about themselves and others do not deserve to be in your presence.
From today onwards, make a decision to be aware of your thoughts, be aware of things that you tell yourself. Start changing the way you talk to yourself. You’ve got nothing to lose, just replace your negative thoughts with positive thoughts. Tell yourself how great you are, how beautiful you are, how blessed you are, how talented you are but most importantly stop saying you can’t. I know you can.
Have a positive and inspiring year.