On Friday I posted a picture of my fitness progress on social media. If you have been trying to lose weight for a while but found yourself busy discussing my progress with a friend, over a double cheeseburger or a triple-decker pizza with extra cheese, wondering how I did it, then you have not made a serious decision.
After posting my picture, I received many messages from people asking me how I did it. I am here to share my experience and I hope to inspire you to start or to reassess your commitment to your own fitness goals. Nobody can do it for you, you are in control.
Kairo is six months old and I am only 3kg’s away from my pre-baby weight. Kairo’s Glammy plays a very big role in my daily inspiration. We talk about positivity, consistency and dreaming big. When the messages were flooding in, we started talking about what “the secret” is that people asked me to share with them.
I need to be honest with you, there is no shortcut. There is no easy road. Anything worth having won’t come easy. The truth is, there is no secret. Great results come from hard and consistent work so I would like to urge you to rid yourself of the idea that there will be a shortcut. Also bear in mind that weight loss and fitness is 20% exercise and 80% diet.
Weight loss and fitness are personal goals and like any other goal, there are things that you have to put in place in order to achieve them. I want to encourage you to read Glammy’s post, “Your Best Year Yet’ where she talks about making decisions, setting goals and achieving your goals. She shares her ideas about how she is approaching her own weight loss goals this year and also touches on the importance of being accountable.
Now, let me share “my secret” with you.
If you do not know where you are going, how will you get there?
I want you to think about that for a second …
This is how your journey will start, you need to know where you are going. What is your destination? This is goal setting. How much weight do you want to lose? Write that down, weigh your self right now and start your journey. I would suggest you keep a journal.
Now that you know what your destination is, set a timeline. How long will it take for you to get there? Be realistic, don’t set unrealistic timelines or you will end up disappointing yourself.
I might be wrong but I truly believe that most of the fitness exercise routines you will find on the internet do work, its only your consistency and perseverance which makes the difference.
Find an exercise program online, download an exercise app or find a personal trainer. I would like to suggest that the program you pick is longer than 45 minutes. Do the research. I spend an hour at the gym, 5 mornings a week. I am up at 4:30 and at gym by 5:00. I know that you think this is too early and you love your sleep but it gets easier with time. I am part of what Robin Sharma calls the “5am Club”. According to Robin, rising early is a habit of successful people. He also says that 5 am to 8 am are “The Golden Hours” that the most successful achievers in the world use to set up their days for success. The way you begin your day really does determine how you live your day.
See more at: Robin Sharma – How to wake up early
I go to gym from Monday till Friday and those are my favourite days of the week. I am not so excited about the weekends, maybe its because of how I start my weekend days, no gym and no motivation as opposed to my weekdays that I start with lots of energy from the gym. Trust me it makes a big difference. Some people prefer ending their day with gym but I personally prefer to start my day with some exercise. Whichever time of the day you choose is up to you entirely, the trick is to be consistent with your plan and to keep on going even when its not easy.
Losing weight is a form of success and in order to reach your weight or fitness goal successfully, you need to start adopting the habits of highly successful people.
Let me share my daily habits with you:
- I rise early, by 5 am I am at gym. This gives me a head start and conditions my mind to thinking that I am an achiever because lets face it, a lot of people cannot keep this up.
- I start my day with an hour workout. This makes me feel like a warrior, I feel like I can take on the world.
- You will need a lot of motivation to stick to your workout program and there is nothing that runs out like motivation. You need to keep refilling your motivation tank. So what I do is listen to motivational talks everyday. I listen to successful people like Oprah, Pastor TD Jakes, Robin Sharma Deepak Chopra etc. Below is a link to some of my favourites.
- As much as motivation dries out on its own, there are also people and situations that will drain your motivational tank. So I am very careful about the conversations I have with people. I love talking to Nomndeni, Masego, Glammy and my brother Zak because they are always talking about dreaming and achieving big. We prefer not to talk about other people unless we are sharing their success stories. Glammy and I were googling the 10 richest woman in the world just the other day. What is the last thing you and your friends googled? I have mentioned this so many times, but I am going to say this again, you need to be careful of the company you keep. If you are trying to achieve a fitness goal, surround yourself with like minded people. How are you going to achieve your fitness goal if your best friends are always trying to convince you to join them for pizza or tell you that you are crazy for waking up early to exercise? Motivation should come from within but its not always easy and it makes it even more difficult when your friends do not support you. I am not saying that you must ditch your friends but just be careful of the influence they have on your motivation.
I love music, radio and TV but I have had to be very careful about the things I expose my mind to. My friends know that I only watch happy and inspirational movies. If it’s a sad movie, I don’t want to see it, if people are killing each in the movie, miss me. The same goes for social media, the news, and trash TV. The mind absorbs information so I don’t want to expose my mind to negativity.
Sometimes people will discourage you, not because they are jealous, but because they do not understand your dreams, so be careful not to share your fitness dream with someone who will discourage you.
I love food, who doesn’t? Exercise is great and bears results but if you are not eating right, you will not see the results. Your exercise program needs to be accompanied by a healthy and balanced diet if you want to see the results and lose weight. Exercise alone is not going to get you far.
Use the internet to find a balanced eating plan or at least start eating better by not skipping meals and by cutting out those fizzy drinks and unhealthy snacks. Resisting food you like is hard but you need to work on your willpower and eventually, it wont even be an issue resisting unhealthy food. Another great source of motivation is reading books.
The following books have changed my life and I highly recommend that you read them:
1. The Leader Who Had No Title – Robin Sharma
2. A New Earth – Eckhart Tolle
The mind is a very powerful tool and you need to use it to achieve the results you want. Lao Tzu says, “If you correct your mind, the rest of your life will fall into place”.
Stop being in denial about the bad habits you have been holding on to, they have brought you no positive results so its time to make a change. Just remember, for changes to be of any true value, they have to be lasting and consistent.