Conversations with Mom and Granny

I am 47 years old and I have kept a Daily Gratitude Journal for many years. I have never run out of things to be grateful for, not even when I have gone through the most difficult periods in my life.

At the lowest of times, when I just could not seem to find anything to be grateful for, my safety net has always been family. My family always gives me some reason to be grateful. They are what is most important to me. We have our differences and disagreements, like is the case with any family, but family is the most important thing to me and that will never change.

I am very blessed to have a grandmother who is still alive and more than that, a very healthy woman. She turned 103 earlier this year and is still going strong. What an incredible blessing!

I don’t see my granny often enough, and I take full responsibility for that. I know that I need to make more of an effort to see her because I have someone that not many people have in their lives at my age.

She affectionately calls me “My Girl”. I think that is what she calls all her granddaughters but it is still very special.

My grandmother has given me very simple advice about life and she always says the same thing to me whenever I see her or have a conversation with her. I have tried to follow this advice as much as possible and I do believe that it has worked for me. This is what she said, “My Girl, walk straight and be happy.” It’s a simple but very powerful message.

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Most of what I know and live, I have learnt from my mother. She has taught me so many things but what I want to share is what I believe is the most important gift I have received from my mother. It is actually a talent or more than that a calling or a purpose.

My mom taught me the value of family, how to love everyone equally and without exception. That is all I know and that is what I practice. She gave me the gift of love and that is my talent, my purpose.

My parents raised 4 daughters and 2 sons. They have 4 sons-in-law and 2 daughters-in-law. To my mother there is no difference. I got divorced 9 years ago but that made no difference to my mother. My ex-husband is the father of 2 of her grandchildren, so he will remain her son forever. The same goes for me, he is the father of my children so he will forever be a very important part of my family and I will always treat him with love and respect. He has re-married a few years ago and has a beautiful daughter with his wife. It is very important to me that we all respect each other because there are children and grandchildren involved who need their family to get along and be happy. This is the man who gave me the greatest blessings of my life, my children.

My mother does not have children-in-law. As far as she is concerned, she has 6 sons and 6 daughters which she loves equally and that is just the way it is.

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I love my mother dearly and I am extremely grateful for the lessons she taught me. She raised me to have a clear purpose in life and I am very proud that God has given me this responsibility through her teachings. Thank you mom, I have endless love and respect for you and I can only pray that my children and grandchildren will treasure and respect your teachings and that I am adequate enough to   effectively convey your message to them.

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I am sure you have an amazing mom too! I the comments below, please share what it is that makes your mom special.

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    PALESA May 10, 2016 @ 1:27 pm

    Your Family is blessed! Glory to God….

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    Hlengiwe Mgidi May 11, 2016 @ 8:11 am

    Your family is truly best. My heart bleeds for my daughter who will never get a chance with her maternal great/grandparents especially my mother, what a lovely woman she was.

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    zenande bambela May 14, 2016 @ 2:32 pm

    My mom is the best mom ever I come from one of those under privileged families but she made sure that I never went to bed with an empty stomach She thought me how to pray She saw something in me that till this day I dont know if I could be that but ima die trying she’s my queen Shes the only reason that I went to school and I finish she told me that I had talent Got on her knees and prayed for me when I started getting violent…now that im also going to be a mother I will do the best I can to be a great mother I can not wait to meet her 🙂 she kicks like a real champ

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    Siphokazi May 28, 2016 @ 4:47 pm

    This is beautiful Glammy. I see why you and Zinhle have the relationship you do. Kairo is a blessed to have both of you in her life.

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    Linda June 8, 2016 @ 12:17 pm

    This was truly inspirational, loved reading it and thankful you shared this. Makes me appreciate my family even more and learnt a lot from this too. Thank you

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