Nokubonga Mbanga is a Leadership Coach who’s passion lies in helping people discover their potential and explore new pathways to success.
She worked with me on the TV show, “It Takes A Village”, to help young women rid themselves of their own demons, live their best lives and in turn make a difference in their community. “It Takes A Village with DJ Zinhle”, is a a show that is committed to making a difference in the lives of young women in South Africa.
Bongi, could you start by telling us a about yourself?
I am a mother of four (1 boy and 3 girls), a sister, daughter, wife and a friend. I love progress and I am inspired by stories that embody success. I grew up in the rural areas in the Eastern Cape, raised by business minded parents who instilled active participation in our lives.
How did you choose your profession?
I think that my profession chose me. I had my eye on being a Fashion Buyer. HR was one of my major subjects and I enjoyed it. The first available position I found was in training and I decided to take it as I needed experience. My love of enabling development grew from this opportunity and I have allowed it to evolve over the years working in various organisations.
What is the most challenging part about your profession?
My profession is about transformation and the most challenging part is that it does not come easily for everyone. Each person progress differently and therefore you need the skill to be patient, kind and resilient.
What is the most rewarding part about your profession?
Growth is the most rewarding part of my work. Progress excites me and when I see clients participating authentically in their journey, I get super excited because it means they are in the driver seat and are contributing purposefully.
You often work with young people, tell us why that’s so important to you?
I am paying forward. I think it’s important for young people to know that the world cares and that they are not alone. I am a product of women before me who reminded me that I matter and the world needs all of us to contribute the best way we can. I do enjoy working with young people because through my work they can focus on how best to contribute to the world. Young people are going to be the leaders of tomorrow and helping them develop self leading capabilities is critical to their growth.
How do you balance work and family demands?
I have a very supportive family. I believe having productive relationships with my family and friends allows for the harmony that I experience between work and family demands.
You were recently part of “It Takes A Village”, a reality TV show on SABC 1, tell us about your involvement?
I was contributing as a Personal Development Coach to the 12 young women on the show. My role was to help them see that change/transformation does not occur from a place of comfort. I would, for example, ask challenging questions regarding the choices they have made, in order to seek a better future.
Why did you feel the need to be part of such a show?
I was inspired by the opportunity to create a new and different story in a space where my skills would help others view their lives differently. I wanted to help the girls see the best in themselves so that they can thrive in areas of their lives where progress mattered. I said YES to their stories because they have the potential to bring positive change to the lives of others.
What lessons did you learn from being on the show?
I learnt new skills as I have never been on camera for more than 30 minutes in my life but more importantly the show has stretched my development. The summary is as follows:
- Stand up and show up consistently.
- Be adventurous about life – be open to new possibilities.
- Every day we are given an opportunity to contribute in our stories.
- We are not alone – seek help.
What’s the best advice you ever received?
Learn, love and leave a legacy.
Which books have you enjoyed reading most?
There are too many to mention, but I will list five for now:
- Leader Without A Title by Robin Sharma
- The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
- Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert
- Born A Crime by Trevor Noah
- Loving What Is by Byron Katie
Which lessons have you learned that you would like to share with your daughters?
- Every day we get given a chance to write our story through the actions we take or not take.
- Be a Contributor – we participate in the world to be better, to learn and grow but more importantly we develop ourselves so that we can make the world a better place.
- I matter – I seek to help my daughters to see themselves through their eyes.
- Court the buffering zone – learn to master productively the space between where you are and where you want to be. We are all capable of dreaming the big idea/agenda but most of us fall off the journey for a number of reasons. The trick is to learn to navigate the space in between by reviewing the plan, alter it, adapt to the changes, remain resilient at all times and you will soon touch the dream and everyday gives us a chance to get closer to realising it
I would like to encourage you to go back to our old blogs as I find that the lessons and advice shared on those posts is still powerful and relevant. I would like to challenge you to always share a post after you’ve read it. The idea is to touch and help as many people as possible.